Becoming an adequate woman.

My mother and I are getting dressed to go to Wal-Mart, and, as usual, I'm standing in her bathroom chatting about this and that. She and my father recently returned from Texas where they visited my grandmother (my mother's mother). We were talking about how my grandma says things sometimes that are just absolutely crazy, partly because of her age and partly because she's got some medical issues, besides, going a little crazy runs in my family. Well, apparently, she asked my mom why I wasn't settled, and the conversation went like this:

Grandma- "Why isn't Tiffani settled yet?"

Real women focus on their man, and not school.

Mom- "We are encouraging her to focus on her studies for now. She doesn't need to date." 

This is only partially true. Mom pushes me to date people that I don't want to just because she likes them. I think this is typical mother behavior. Dad doesn't want me to date. He'd probably like for me to live at home with him forever. Typical dad type things.

Grandma - "But she dated all through high school. You really should encourage her to date and get settled."

Apparently I need to be popping out babies and doting on a husband or I'm not adequate.

Mom- "Yes, she did date all through high school, and that's why she didn't get the better scholarship for school. She's got a hard major, it require lots of study time. She doesn't have time for boys."

Bless her heart for thinking I study.

Grandma - "She's old enough to do both now. Although you're right. She got the brains. She must've gotten it from her father's side of the family."

...really?

What is all this "settled" business?! I have the old men at my father's church ask me all the time when I'm going to get married. I actually had one come up to me and say, "When are you going to get married and become a respectable woman?"

Should I repeat that?

"When are you going to get married and become a respectable woman?"

WHO SAYS THAT?! I think my mouth literally fell open, I was so shocked. I was twenty at the time. I just said, "Well, probably never. I'll be rich and I don't need a man nor do I want children." I mean really, isn't that rude? Maybe it's an old person thing. It's like women shouldn't be in school and working to be successful.

 I don't know if I could be a stay at home mom. And let's be real, I'm not the kind of girl who does a whole lot of doting. I like to wear the pants in the relationship. It's probably due to the fact I am stubborn, opinionated, sarcastic, and blunt. I'm an awful woman!